9/27/2009

Life as a Fag in High School

Next year marks my 30th year since graduating high school, but some things you never forget, like being called faggot, or a retard.

There were no gay guys in our school. That hadn't been invented yet--in people's minds. There were just some suspected future perverts and unathletic sissies. I was one of them. How do I know? Two different jocks told me so.

See how two different days in high school affected my life far beyond those formative years, now and forever on Randy Boyd's Blocks:

Can We Be Faggots Together?
The Day I Died in 9th Grade Gym Class

9/26/2009

Hoosier Favorite Sports Team?

An avid sportsman and fan of his hometown Indiana Pacers, Randy lives in Southern California and has a dog named Boomer, named after the Pacers mascot. Read Randy Boyd's entire bio.

9/25/2009

A Straight-Boy Adventure

The following article originally appeared in the June 2000 issue of XY Magazine, a publication for young gay men, in conjunction with my second novel, Bridge Across the Ocean.


A Straight-Boy Adventure
Randy Boyd sets teen novel in Mexico
by Benjie Nycum

Derek Mayfield is having the best year of his life and the hardest year of his life. He's just found out he's HIV positive, and is transforming from an overweight, closeted, sexual compulsive into a lean, self-loving, out, proud black gay man.

But the journey to healthy living has been very draining.

To take a break from it all, Derek takes off to Cancun, Mexico, for one week of peace and solitude. In Cancun, Derek meets Rob, a 16-year-old, straight-identified white boy who reminds Derek of the “godly” athletic jocks he worshiped in his youth. But Rob is also naïve beyond belief. He worships Derek as a hip, athletic, “cool black guy” who knows so much about life, while Derek is drawn to Rob's innocence and unspoiled beauty.
"How could I fit him into my life?"
Keeping his sexual orientation to himself, Derek befriends Rob, Rob's 13-year-old brother, Skeeter, who also looks up to Derek, and Roberta, their portly, single mother who thinks of Derek as a good role model for her boys.

Derek, Rob and Skeeter embark on a week of friendship and youthful adventure, hanging out at the beach, wading in the ocean, sailing, playing sports, looking for aliens in the tropical night sky, faking shark attacks and basking in the hot summer sun. The week is like something out of the adventure fantasies of Derek's boyhood, three boys in search of innocent fun in one magical summer place.

The more time Derek, Rob and Skeeter spend together, the more inseparable they become, and the more intense Derek's feelings grow, so intense that Derek knows he must tell the family he is gay, and tell Rob that he is attracted to him.

When the truth is revealed, the true adventure begins. And none of their lives will ever be the same.

That was the official promo text for Randy Boyd's new book, Bridge Across the Ocean.

Randy Boyd is 6'4”, 200+ pounds and black, which is why people always come up to him and ask him what team he plays for. But while he does love sports, he says, “usually the only assumption they have right is that I'm black. When people see me they make assumptions based on what I look like and they're usually pretty surprised that I'm a writer, and more surprised I am gay. I guess that's the way society works, with all its stereotypes.”

But Randy draws from this experience, claiming his life of polar opposites inspires the conflict and tension in his writing.

Bridge Across the Ocean is semi-autobiographical. “I was in love with this kid,” Randy says. “He captured my heart and soul and I was trying to think how I could fit him into my life. The image of a bridge kept coming to mind.”

In Cancun, of course, water is central to anything that happens really, so bridges make a nice reference, but the book is more about bridging divides like black/white, gay/straight, mentor/apprentice, hope/despair, and worldly/naive.

Bridge represents a departure from the genre Randy enjoys most--thrillers. His first book, Uprising, was a thriller and his next book will be too, although Uprising fans will have to wait--he's going to write other things before any possible sequel.

Not only is Randy a star writer, he started West Beach Books because he was tired of publishing companies telling him what to write--they would always tell him to make gay roles smaller or even turn them straight! But, he says, West Beach's next book won't be written by him. That's because he's trying to launch and encourage new writers.

I ask Randy if, like Derek Mayfield, the lead character of Bridge, he has a thing for young white straight boys. His answer: “I don't care what age some is, or what beautiful shade of skin they have.”

He adds with a chuckle: “but I definitely like a guy with a great ass.”

  • Originally published in the June 2000 issue of XY Magazine.

9/24/2009

Least Wanted: Black Gay Men

Most gay men won't date black men, so says a new survey in the journal AIDS and Behavior (and many a black man who's done time in the gay world).

As reported in HIV Plus Magazine, the survey revealed "blacks are deemed the least preferred as sexual partners by men of other ethnicities."

This prejudging of every black man alive as unacceptable for sexual intimacy “forces black gay men into closely-knit sexual networks that allow HIV to rapidly spread once introduced.”

HIV infection rates are disproportionately high among young black gay men. Now researchers believe one of the reasons is prejudice and racism.

Welcome to My Racist Gay World.

This is what it looks like in words:

The Hypocrisy of Gay Civil Rights
Rising Up Over Gay Racism
Dear Queers, Give Black People Blue Jeans!
10 Ways to Get Blacks To Support Gay Marriage
Poll Dancing with Blacks and Gays
Gay Rights and Civil Wrongs

This is what it looks like in pictures:

WHITES AND LATINS ONLY, a photo essay using gay men's online language in images reminiscent of the segregated Old South.

9/23/2009

Not So Gay About Being Gay

When I was a kid, the world told me I was a Negro. When I was an older kid, the world told me I was a fag.

Now the world tells me I'm African-American, and that I should call myself gay. Or homosexual. Do I get a say?

You bet. Guess what world, I'm No Longer a Homo.

9/18/2009

Why Me?

Life happens. And so does AIDS. But what happens when you survive AIDS for over two decades, while many others you have known have not? AIDS Survivor's Guilt.